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Thank you Jen. You're brave.

What we measure defines who we become, as people and organizations. Metrics can drive improvement, or the car off of a cliff. Choosing the correct metric is risky business, get it wrong and we're off for a decade.

Also been thinking about boundaries. I, too, had a corporate gig that left me feeling empty, and it was exactly what I had worked very hard to achieve.

Prior to the corporate gig I had enlisted in the Army to escape my circumstances in my hometown, and maybe myself. It was the right choice for me. Finished undergrad/grad school, learned a foreign language in Monterey, lived overseas, and grew up quite a bit-mostly because of boundaries & consequences.

The emptiness of corporate America pushed me back to the military just as the wars were kicking off.

I didn't know it until then that my work needed to matter. The Army in a time of war was meaningful, it mattered, and I loved it.

Didn't want to go to war when I joined, but once I was on the team and war was imminent--I wanted to play my role. Probably an XY thing--but we need to know we are not cowards. Do we have what it takes? Can we can be loyal to our friends, our fellow Soldiers? Can I face down the BIG SCARY. I wasn't afraid of death as much as I was afraid of failing those who counted on me. It is REAL. War is a decade distilled into one year.

War requires an expansive effort, but there is a cost. Drinking Everclear vs vodka.

It is scarier to work as an artist, an entrepreneur, a dreamer--mostly because we do this alone.

Watched Baby Reindeer recently. Do not know if I recommend it. But it has left a mark. I'm still unpacking--but in the end I see it as the logical outcome of no boundaries, incorrect metrics, and an absence or opacity of values. Dark. Patterns, especially negative patterns are especially difficult to drop. Trauma is passed on genetically, and familiar pain is often more attractive than unknown freedom.

This blog leaves me feeling light and hopeful. Baby Reindeer not so much.

bsn

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Hanna Keiner (she/her)'s avatar

The word expansion really resonates with me. I’ve considered evolution and growth as value words for me but they felt too one-directional and with judgment (towards “better”/ improved). Expansion feels right.

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